Maintaining the Balance Between Me Time And Quality Time With Your Mate

In most relationships, women love to be under their man and do everything with him. It just feels right. Your man is your best friend. The attraction is there, the conversation is on point and emotionally you are good, but there still could be one issue and that is space. We are not talking about somewhere around the moon or space as in “we need to date other people”, but accepting and  acknowledging that you need some “me time”. Balancing time with your man and solitude is important in a relationship and for both parties.

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1. It allows your man time to miss you. If you two are always around each other, it can be annoying and frustrating. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, when he is apart from you, he will begin to think of what a good woman he has.

2. It allows trust to grow. You claim you trust your man, but being around each other all the time is not trust. Trust includes giving space and having confidence that he will respect you even when you’re missing.

3. It can help you sort things out. Space allows you to think clearer and to re-channel your energy. If your man is around all the time, how do you expect to accomplish anything? You can gain more focus if you do not have muscles, a nice body and a nice smile around you all day. Any woman could lose focus with that around. *wink*

While solitude is important, don’t ever leave your man feeling abandoned or neglected. Do some things together with him. Sitting down and communicating your feelings is a plus. More than likely, he will be understanding that you want to be alone. He may even want time to himself and agree with you. It is here where strategizing and planning how to balance it together comes into play.

Do you think space is important in a relationship? How do you balance time with your man and solitude?

By: Tiffany Upchurch-Rivera