Party Of One: How To Make The Most Out Of Your Single Life

Break-ups are difficult and starting over can be frightening. You literally are ending one part of your life to start another. While there will undoubtedly be challenges with that, there will also be triumphs. Being single can be the best time you’ve ever had if you open up to the possibilities, and enjoy the moments.

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“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”

Solitude forces you to look at yourself, listen to your thoughts, see things as they are, and then allows you to decide how you want them to be. Here is the time to figure out how you want to be treated or loved by a partner. This way when the time comes again you’ll know what you need, understand what you want, and have the confidence to ask for it.

It’s also a time to indulge and have fun. Date yourself. Take yourself out for dinner and a movie.  Create a new weekly pampering ritual by going to the spa alone.  Buy yourself something nice as a token of your self appreciation. Remind yourself that you deserve to feel good and be treated well. Because you do.

Singlehood is the time to refocus and reconnect to yourself. It’s an opportunity to learn about your growth and make adjustments to your wish lists based on that growth. What do you like to do? How do you like to feel? Where do you want to go? These questions and more will help you begin the process of personal revitalization, which ultimately leads to personal satisfaction and happiness.

All the problems you were previously complaining to your partner about are now solved. You have no one to answer to or wait for besides yourself. Just because it’s not your turn doesn’t mean it isn’t your time. Start to live again and enjoy life!

By: Fila Antwine