What happens when you’re the only woman, man, African American, Chinese, or other minority in the workplace? Should some office topics/jokes be avoided? Are you sensitive to certain subjects and care not to speak on things for fear of being criticized? How do you handle the pressure that comes with being the only person in the workplace that’s different from the rest of your coworkers?
Many of us at one point have worked with or have been the outsider in the workplace. At first it may not seem that big of deal, but when you start to notice patterns then it starts to bother you. For instance, if you’re the only woman working with an office full of men, you may feel left out when they talk about sports or if they go out to lunch and seem to forget to invite you, you may feel separation from the group. Being the only minority at work doesn’t have to affect you or your performance. Here are some ways you can cope with being the only in the office:
Find a Common Interest: Race/gender/sexual orientation/age are only individual aspects of who we are as a whole. Instead of focusing on how you differ from your coworkers, focus on the things you have in common. You may share the same passion for shopping or cooking or may root for the same sports team. Focus on things that unite, not divide.
Don’t Be A Know-it-all: While you may be tempted to properly educate others about the unique aspects of your cultural or ethnic heritage, try not to make overcoming stereotypes your sole focus because it could be translated as being defensive. Try to resist the pressure to be an expert on all things related to your race, gender or sexual orientation.
Stay Professional: Discrimination and prejudice are still major issues in the workplace. If you find yourself in an unfortunate situation, make sure to approach it calmly and professionally. Then, find the appropriate person to discuss it with, such as a manager or an HR professional. Never get into an argument regarding race, gender, etc. The problem may escalate more than you had intended.
Whether you’re expected to serve as spokesperson for your entire group when a heated issue or topic is brought up or listen to people tell you how impressed they are by your eloquence and articulate speaking, being the only one—or one of few— takes discipline, focus and lots of patience. In the face of adversity, minorities must continue to be team players, even if it means fighting the urge to go off.
Written By: Star Adeeso